We split the day in two, so one of us takes care of changing diapers and bottle-feeding while the other works. We both look forward to naptime,” said Adam Motz, one of the dads.
Every able-bodied person should have the right to be a parent if they so desire, even if they and their partner cannot have children together because they are ʜᴏᴍᴏsᴇxᴜᴀʟ. And although this is not legally possible in some countries, there are countries where same-sex couples can adopt.
Such an example is Adam Motz and Amadou Lam, who live in Chicago in the United States and raise their 10-month-old twins, Reve Christine and Sky Khoudia, together.
According to Today, Adam and Amadou became parents through ᴇɢɢ donation and sᴜʀʀᴏɢᴀᴄʏ. Ever since the girls were born, they’ve been sharing their lives on social media, especially TikTok, as “2 Dads 2 Twins.”
“It’s like an album of our favorite moments, and the fact that people are connecting with it makes it even more meaningful,” said Motz, 34, who is a lawyer.
They were very clear about one thing from the beginning of their relationship: they both wanted children. Although they met on a dating app, they decided at the beginning of their relationship that they wanted a family.
“I knew I wanted children, but Adam made it clear that he had to get married first. My time was ticking, and I wanted to be young enough to have children. My back is already hurting,” said Lam, 40, who works as a property manager.
After considering their options, they decided on sᴜʀʀᴏɢᴀᴄʏ, and Motz remembered that his best friend, Amy Preister, had promised to donate her ᴇɢɢs if he ever needed them.
“In college, she said, ‘If you ever need an ᴇɢɢ donor, I’ll do it. So I asked her if she remembered saying that, and she said yes!” said the man.
“We ended up paying $100,000 from start to finish, including ᴇɢɢ donor and gestational carrier costs, doctor’s appointments, hospital stays, and other expenses,” he added.
As parents, they both had to adapt to their new lives, but so far it has worked out well.
“We split the day in half, so one of us takes care of changing diapers and bottle-feeding while the other works. We’re both looking forward to the nap,” said Motz.
In this regard, Lam emphasized that he learned a lot during the process.
“I am impatient by nature, but children teach me patience. I enjoy life more, and I feel like a child again, especially when we play with the children, which I didn’t get much of as a child (in Senegal),” he said.